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Loved this. Looking forward to reading the whole memoir when it's ready.

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Thank you!

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Appreciate this a great deal. I have half-siblings I haven't spoken with in decades. Even across the years, I imagine the threat of exposure feels too great....

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It really does. There is a really unique pain/shame when you are alienated from your siblings. Thanks for reading.

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wow and so true if perplexing we create our own families as we go people who do not necessarily share memory but the desire to explore and incorporate it in a way at cross purpose sometimes to our own blood kin we can actually be TOO close to Them and we mirror our own confusion (?)

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Interesting, never thought about it that way. Thank you for reading!

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I didn’t see the end coming. I expected a story about a twin who had died, not a dead connection that might live again.

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Well, it has been another year and nothing has changed ... thanks for reading.

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When I saw @writersatwork weekend thread, I decided to scroll and not look until my hand felt ready to stop. It stopped on your comment, and I'm so grateful it did. "Estrangement", is a difficult experience, and while I have so many thoughts, I've never been able to put them into words. My estrangement is from my father, and it's a sore point for my mother- so much so that I find it challenging to write about. How do you tell your story when it's also someone else's? And, yet- you did it beautifully. Thank you

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It was super scary, I'll tell you that. On one hand, I convinced myself he'll never read it so it's okay. On the other, I really tried my best to take myself out of the picture and look at the dynamic. It's your truth, in the end, even if someone else sees it differently.

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This was a beautiful punch in the gut. I've spent some years estranged from my sister, and have often thought of writing about it. We're back together now, with a substantial loss of anger, but skyscraper high boundaries. It's working. Anticipating the whole memoir and look forward to reading.

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Oh and yes, boundaries! Such a good thing, and a good word.

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So grateful, thank you 🙏

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Wow, this has echoes of my family. People not speaking to each other for years. Holocaust survivors on my dad's side. I'm convinced it shapes multiple generations. Thank you so much for sharing and helping me understand.

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If you ever want to share, please let me know. We do guest posts

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Thank you for that offer. I haven't figured out yet what is okay to publish and what would be better to keep private. When I write an essay that I feel confident about sharing, I would love to reach out. Thanks.

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Thanks Rey! I think that's true.

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It is sad and I do wonder about the correlation

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